Sunday, 15 January 2012

Soap Box Special: Afro Hair Etiquette

Having a big, luscious fro comes with lots of adoration and admiration. Unfortunately, some people just don't know how to act around an enviable fro!The following are some ways that you, your friends, or strangers can enjoy an amazing fro without being annoying. Learn these rules and teach others.


  1. Ask. Do.not.touch. without permission. Especially if you do not know the person. Also, even if you ask, don't expect the person to automatically give you the go-ahead. The person with an afro is still a human being with likes and dislikes. They may love people touching their hair or they may not like it at all. Save yourself the trouble and just ask. 
  2. Do not get too familiar. It's hair, not a visa to be friends. Don't assume that because you like someone's hair that they want to go do activities with you. I.e. smoke weed/go dancing/do laundry...
  3. Do not go overboard with the compliments.  Yes, the afro-wielder has an amazing fro! You want to tell him/her that their hair is mind blowing. I'm sure the person with the fluffy hair goodness would appreciate the compliment. In fact, who doesn't enjoy a heart felt compliment? However, do not follow them around telling them how great their hair is. This leads me to my next point...
  4. Do not be a creeper! I know, I know, as soon as your eyes locked onto their hair, you had to talk to them. The afro was practically magnetic. You were drawn to it. Now you feel like you have to be everywhere the afro is, smell it, touch it, take lots of pictures, bump into the person five times "accidentally", and stare. Boy, you know how to make someone feel comfortable! Don't do this! Enviable afro or not, no one likes a creeper. 

Thursday, 12 January 2012

Basics: Trimming Natural Hair

Trim! Trim! Trim those ends! Here is my simple trimming technique.

You Will Need: 

  • Sharp, hair scissors specifically kept for hair trimming. Using dull hair scissors will cut your hair, but the cut may not be a clean cut. Clean cuts are always better than  jagged ones...ask a surgeon:P 
  • Moisturized hair
  • Hair ties/ separation clips


  • Moisturize and seal your hair as you normally do. Some Naturals like to blow dry the hair or band it to elongate the hair, but I prefer to keep my hair in its most natural state. We are not doing a major cut so it is not necessary to do much hair preparation. 
  • Do medium sized, two- strand twists on your hair. You can do smaller or larger if you choose, but I find that medium size lowers the amount of time that I spend trimming my hair and my ends are well trimmed.

  • After twisting your hair, section your twists.

  • Starting from the very back,  inspect each twist and trim the parts of that twist that look unhealthy.


Wednesday, 11 January 2012

Soap Box Special: Love Your Natural Hair...But Don't Get Crazy!

It's a new year! Time to reflect on the good and bad things that we have done to our hair. We have come a long way and have done some crazy things! In my effort to have pretty hair, I went overboard. The following are some ridiculous things that I have done while on my quest for luxurious hair.

Marathon Deep Conditioning Sessions:

I used to deep condition my hair every Sunday for eight hours. I would wake up in the morning, wash my hair and apply my deep conditioner. I thought that the longer you leave a deep conditioner on the hair, the better it worked. People, it doesn't work that way. It takes about 10 mins to receive the benefits of a deep conditioner.

Measuring my hair too much.

Hair grows slowly. I learned that the hard way. My silly self was measuring my hair every day hoping that it grew overnight. After a while, I got the hint that my hair grows at a steady pace and it made no sense to keep measuring it.

Search and destroy missions.

If you're unfamiliar with the term, search and destroy means that you go through your hair and find split ends. It is a tedious task...especially if you have lots of hair. I think I was on crack at the time, but I did this twice before I realized how ineffective the process was.

Following YouTube advice religiously.

One of the worst things I have ever done for my hair was take YouTube hair advice at face value. I followed so many trends: Nu Gro, hair mask recipes, defining curls techniques (I don't even have curls), Denman brush (still regretting this to this day), I bought so many products and spent so many hours trying to blindly follow advice. As with any advice, you must adapt it to your situation.